Archive for November 15th, 2009

Weight-Management Myths Debunked

By Michelle May, MD

See why you can eat after 7 p.m., plus get the real story about six other commonly held beliefs

weight managementDiets are filled with dogma about when, what and how much to eat. Certainly “the rules” are usually based on observations that make sense, but unless you understand why you do certain things, you’ll break the rules as soon as the temptation is greater than your motivation. Let’s examine some of these myths, where they come from and how to make long-term changes that will work for you.

Myth #1: Don’t Eat After 7 p.m.

Your metabolism doesn’t shut off at 7:01 p.m., so why is this rule so common? It is based on the observation that a lot of people who struggle with their weight overeat in the evening. Most people have already eaten dinner, so they aren’t snacking because they’re hungry. They snack because of boredom, television, loneliness and other triggers.

Rather than creating a rule to address those habits, ask yourself, “Am I hungry?” whenever you feel like eating in the evening. If you truly are, eat, keeping in mind that your day is winding down so you won’t need a huge meal. If you aren’t, consider why you feel like eating and come up with a better way to address that need. Ken, a man in one of my workshops, realized he was just bored, so he started doing stained-glass projects in the evenings to entertain himself. Whatever works!

Myth #2: Eat Small Meals Every 3 Hours

This rule is based on the fact that many thin people tend to eat frequent small meals. However, most of the thin people I know don’t check their watch to tell them it’s time to eat–they eat when their body tells them to. They eat when they’re hungry and stop when they’re satisfied. Since that tends to be a small meal, they get hungry again in a few hours.

Instead of watching the clock, begin to tune into the physical signs of hunger to tell you when to eat. And remember, your stomach is only about the size of your fist, so it only holds a handful of food comfortably. By learning to listen to your body’s signals, you are likely to follow a frequent small-meal pattern naturally.

Myth #3: Don’t Let Yourself Get Hungry

This one is based on the belief that overweight people are incapable of controlling themselves when they are hungry. In my experience with hundreds of workshop participants, once they learn to tell the difference between physical hunger and “head hunger,” the opposite is true.

Think about it. When you’re hungry, food tastes better and is more satisfying. My grandmother used to say, “Hunger is the best seasoning.” Besides, if you aren’t hungry when you start eating, what’s going to tell you to stop? Of course, you also need to learn to recognize hunger and make time to eat before you are too hungry, since it’s harder to make great choices when you are starving!

Myth #4: Exercise More When You Cheat

I hate this one because it has caused millions of people to equate physical activity with punishment for eating. As a result, many people either hate to exercise or use exercise to earn the right to eat.

While it’s true that your weight is determined by your overall calories in versus your calories out, exercise is only part of the equation and it has so many other important benefits. Instead of using exercise to pay penance, focus on how great you feel, how much more energy you have, how much better you sleep and how much healthier you are becoming. In the long run, you are more likely to do something because it feels good than because you are forced to.

Myth #5: Follow Your Diet Six Days a Week, Then You Can Have a Cheat Day

This is absurd! What if you were a harsh, overly strict parent six days a week, then completely ignored your kids every Saturday? How would this approach work for your marriage or managing your employees?

It just doesn’t make sense to try to be perfect (whatever that is) Sunday through Friday while obsessing about everything you’re going to eat on your day off. Then on Saturday you overeat just because you’re allowed to, so you end up feeling miserable all day. Huh? Personally, I would rather enjoy eating the foods I love every day mindfully and in moderation. I call this being “in charge” instead of going back and forth between being in control and out of control.

Myth #6: Eat X Number of Calories (or X Number of Points) Every Day

Does it make sense that you would need exactly the same amount of fuel every day? Aren’t there just days when you’re hungrier than others, maybe because of your activity levels or hormonal cycles?

Rather than setting yourself up to “cheat” on those hungry days and forcing yourself to eat more food than you want on your less hungry days, allow yourself the flexibility to adjust your intake based on your actual needs rather than an arbitrary number. Important: For this to work long-term, you also need to learn to tell the difference between physical hunger and “head hunger.”

Myth #7: Carbs Are Bad (or Fat Is Bad)

This “good food-bad food” thinking makes certain foods special. As a result, you may feel deprived and think about them even more than you did before. Worse yet, healthy foods become a four-letter word.

The truth is, all foods fit into a healthy diet. Since different foods have different nutritional qualities and calorie content, you can use the principles of balance, variety and moderation to guide you without trying to restrict yourself from eating an entire food group.

Truth: You Are In Charge

I assume the rule makers are well intentioned and don’t realize that they’ve created a tightrope that most people will fall off of sooner or later. If your head hadn’t already told you that all these rules are crazy, wasn’t your heart saying there had to be a better way?

It’s time to give yourself a wider path that you can stay on forever. Allow yourself the flexibility to make any decision as long as you consider the advantages and disadvantages of your choices and always keep self-care in mind.

About the Author

Michelle May, MD, is a recovered yo-yo dieter and the founder of the Am I Hungry? Mindful Eating Program, which received the Excellence in Patient Education Innovation Award. She is also the award-winning author of Am I Hungry? What to Do When Diets Don’t Work. Her newest book, Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat: How to Break the Eat-Repent-Repeat Cycle was just released in early October 2009. To learn more about mindful eating, or to order her books, visit

Demostrasi UMNO Kelantan tak dapat sambutan hangat…

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Dalam usaha UMNO Kelantan menangguk di air yang keruh akibat sikap dan tindakan Arif Fahmi, Tok Guru Nik Aziz juga turut dipalitkan dengan kata-kata fitnah. Rakyat Kelantan tak akan percaya tuduhan Tok Guru makan rasuah kerana mereka yakin dengan kejujuran Tok Guru. Anyway, Arif Fahmi pun memang Ahli UMNO di Machang meskipun dia adalah menantu Tok Guru Nik Aziz. Ada juga orang yang menyamakan Arif seperti Malim Kundang…Entah betul ataupun tidak, memang belum dapat dipastikan lagi. Namun apa yang pasti, Arif sebenarnya tidak layak menyandang kerusi CEO PMBK.

Musthapa Ali cuba buka peluang Wakil Rakyat PAS melompat parti

Mustafa AliKalau setakat Musthapa Ali mengesahkan bahawa kaedah Ta`liq bertalaq tiga bukan merupakan arahan yang dikeluarkan oleh PAS Pusat, semua pihak boleh menerima kenyataan ini. Memang benarpun. Namun jika beliau melarang untuk diteruskan baiah sebegini, ini bererti beliau cuba membuka peluang agar wakil rakyat PAS melompat parti. Zaman dahulu tawaran wang ringgit bagi sesiapa yang melompat parti tidaklah sebanyak mana jika dibandingkan dengan tawaran pada masa kini. Paling tinggi pun ditawarkan  sekitar sebanyak rm 100,000 atau rm 200,000. Oleh itu sumpah laknat boleh dikatakan relevan pada masa tersebut. Namun pada masa sekarang tawaran adalah lebih lumayan hingga mencecah puluhan  dan ratusan juta ringgit kepada mana-mana wakil rakyat PAS yang sanggup melompat parti. Situasi ini memerlukan pagar nafsu yang lebih kukuh demi memelihara maruah seseorang wakil rakyat daripada melompat parti. Kenapa perlu patuhi arahan Mustahapa Ali yang jahil tukir ini?

Perlu difahami; negeri Kelantan sekarang didapati memiliki hasil minyak dalam bumi yang lebih baik dan berkualiti dibandingkan dengan hasil minyak di Terengganu. Mengikut kajian pakar, minyak di Terengganu sudah semakin mengurang dan paling lama pun hanya boleh dikeluarkan hasil dalam sekitar tempoh 15-20 tahun saja lagi. Situasi ini membuatkan negeri Kelantan sekarang amat digilai oleh Barisan Nasional. Sehubungan dengan situasi ini juga, baiah berta`liq bertalaq tiga adalah relevan untuk diteruskan.  

Tegahan Musthapa Ali berkenaan amat diragui kerana beliau juga termasuk dalam kalangan mereka yang ketagih tegar UMNO untuk bersama dalam Unity Government. Malah tegahan beliau sebenarnya menyokong pendapat Dr. Mahathir berikut. Sila klik di sini

Khalid SamadSebagaimana maklum, kaedah baiah berta`liq sedemikian tidak menyalahi syarak dan ia adalah demi kemaslahatan parti. Mengapa perlu dilarang? Bukankah Musthapa Ali yang melarang itu sentiasa cenderung untuk bersama UMNO? Dalam situasi ini, amat wajar untuk Tok Guru Nik Aziz kembali bersuara dan mengaku bahawa diri beliau juga turut terlibat dalam masalah ini. Tidak perlu lagi berusaha menyembunyi perkara yang sudah dibongkar kepada umum oleh Nasharuddin Mat Isa dalam perjumpaan bersama beberapa orang blogger sepertimana yang diakui oleh blogger Mahaguru 58. Dalam perjumpaan itulah rahsia PAS didedah oleh Nasharuddin Mat Isa dan bukan YB Khalid Samad yang mula-mula mendedahkan rahsia ini sepertimana yang digembar-gemburkan oleh media massa.